The plight of relationships in this age of enlightenment is rampant and vicious. We are trapped into a society beset with a host of problems ranging from political, social, moral and religious issues. We are trapped into a society beset with a host of problems ranging from political, social, moral and religious issues that certainly make the society a very pleasant place to live in. Wars, killings, and human barricades are a sure manifestation of man’s low concept of human life.
It may be substantial to say that in every part of human existence, there lies avenues where problems arise from out of nothing at all, or simply put are borne out of choices, right or wrong. Human relationships, inevitably, have their own catastrophes: brother vs. brother, a family against kindred, son vs. father and the like – more so man vs. woman.
As if history repeats itself, since time immemorial, some relationships have been shattered long before they are cherished to last even for a lifetime. But to succumbing to bittersweet delights of earth’s bounty of good and evil, the human heart is also set, equally as it is to err, to love and to hope – against all odds, sometimes.
Thus relationships are still built – especially those which seem to have been destined to be one. And again, like how it is in the circle of life, these relationships, may or may not endure even half-past the bliss that have already transpired. What can we say of symmetry? Of sagacity? Of sense? Of stability? Of sensuality?
Some may think it superficial to see appearance, or beauty as everyone may generally call anything pleasant seen by the naked eye. It may not be comforting that as time flies, beauty fades and tragic it may seem, some relationships crumble along with the search of someone better – physically. Husbands may opt for someone more fresh instead of a stingy, old maid. Wives also may look for someone younger for the whim of believing that in their stricken age, they can still catch a sturdy beau. Although this may not be an epidemic, but like a dreaded disease, it clings to some, and strong by a number.
Like how it is looking at appearances, simply being engaged well in a conversation, matched with wits, have at one point or another been the start of it kindling relationships, as flames that softly lights up a darkened room. But, in the long run – with or without it – it will light up a wildfire of quarrels, or just maybe just a nuisance when in a discussion. Or the lack of words, perhaps. Either way, one will tend to find consolation in a listening ear or one who understands. But people change, ideals along with them. Heartbreaking it may be that the person one has set eyes on to listening to for hours, becomes too familiar that it becomes just a litany of who’s more knowledgeable. Or of its equal opposite, of no longer recognizing what’s right or wrong for the relationship to work.
What makes relationships torn apart all the more may be the thought that money can buy everything, and not believing it could really do makes one vulnerable to loving just the material, or the lack of it, makes someone not secure for the future. The thought sometimes when fleeting moments bring just the bliss of being in love, but not thinking about how real life can be, that there is a need to secure the future no matter how bleak it may be, or the dilemma of thinking about the future too much, that enjoying the present is far unreachable that what the future holds. This, too, is detrimental to any relationships.
Last but not the least, especially for married couples, is the need to satisfy the carnal yearnings or the want of it. It may sound petty but some relationships fall apart because of this aspect, that no matter how the other parts contribute to strengthen the relationship, this piece of the puzzle, will come rising as one of the contenders for it as being needed. And it goes for fidelity against coveting beyond what is moral or at least acceptable to the norms of the land. Nevertheless, this is part of human life no matter how humanity advances in the coming generation.
Life and relationships as they appear are an odyssey of love, truth and adventure – and the preferences we make and the choices we make out of them – with people this uncanny life bring. By Judi